"Love & Like Yourself !!!!"
Secret of happiness is that you like yourself. To like yourself, you
have to embrace your good points and accept your bad points which you cannot
change then see beyond the physical, make your spirit shine-through your
emotions, thoughts and the eyes. That would make you more beautiful and you
will be happy. So, begin liking yourself from right now, this very moment.
Whenever and wherever
you come across a mirror or have a chance to handle one, you never miss to look
into it—be it a barber's shop, the shop of a chewing betel—cigarette sellers
shop or watching the shining varnish of a motor car. But why it is so ? Because
you like your face-thinking it to be quite beautiful and attractive. Some
people think, rightly or wrongly that they have the most beautiful face in the
world. Let aside other things— one good point about it is that this illusion
keeps people up and makes them not to have funeral looks. They meet and greet
people with pleasant looks. So, loving and liking one's ownself is good for
personal health and social life. But the strange theory about people's
behaviour is that even such persons as are sure of their faces, are found to be
suffering from inferiority complex, and the malody of irritability and short
temper. In this respect, a doctor's experience may be of help to us. He writes,
"some years ago, a beautiful woman came to see me. Her husband had been
cheating on her, and she wanted some advice from me regarding her future. Her
eyes were dull, shoulders drawn and her face was sad. I managed to look beyond
her sadness I told her to go to look on my bathroom mirror." She came
back, and I asked her what she saw ? "A fool, she replied." I said
she needed glasses and to go again and again. By the third time, she was almost
on tears, but she managed to acknowledge that she was beautiful. The scholars
of psychology say that our thoughts are the creators of our world. When we are
unhappy, specially in times of extreme trauma, the spirit crackes, even fractures
into tiny pieces. In order to put them together, we need to start fitting
piece-to-piece.
No one in the world,
but you yourself can make you happy. The way to be happy is just to do what you
did about your face, i.e., you need to like yourself nd achieve happiness from within. The
conditions that you like make you happy, the people whom you like make you
happy, the food you like makes you happly. The brain sees this, and soon you
feel better you began liking yourself. Silver Jade, the great philosopher says
that "When you like yourself, you go beyond the barriers of
loneliness." When you do not like
yourself, you feel yourself lonely and develop several unhealthy feelings and
complexes.
Ask yourself why I do
not like myself. The answer will come "Because you brood over your
weaknesses; you emphasise your bad points." The remedy is to do otherwise.
In order to really like yourself, you need to emphasise and embrace your good
points. But what about the bad points which make you unhappy. I repeat what
wise men have suggested. Divide the points which you consider as bad or
unfavourable into two groups—the group of bad points that you can change, and
the one that you cannot change what you can, and look at what you cannot change
from a different point of view. For example —you do not like your height, your
feel unhappy about your short stature. But you know it too well that no miracle
can change you into a tall figure. Then what you have to do to feel happy about
it ? Firstly, accept it—what cannot be cured, must be endured—as the saying
goes. Think over the advantages that go with a short stature and also think of
those persons, who were short-statured but did miraculous things and live in
history as great personalities. For example, Napolean and Lai Bahadur Shastri
were physically short-statured but from the view-point of performances, they
stand head and shoulders above many tall persons. Mahatma Gandhi, Pt. Nehru and
many others like them, were not so called tall persons. So, when you try to look
at your height beyond the physical and look at the perfection of your thoughts,
emotions and the spirit, you may realise and cry out that the good things can
reside safely in a shortstatured self. In case you made your spirit shine
through your emotions and thoughts, you will feel like a different person you
must agree with the great English dramatist, William Shakespeare, who
said—"there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so." In case
you do well or rather excellently at the examinations, the food of appreciation
and admiration will make you forget your short-stature and you will be happy
beyond expectations. As a short-statured person you can do many things in
ordinary life that go to make you happy you can be a good and sincere friend,
you can be a hard-working and honest person in your service or in your
profession etc. All these things can make you like and love yourself and you
ask really happy. That beautiful young woman, referred to above, did all these
things. Soon her eyes sparkled and she was lovelier than before. She is her own
best friend. And she really likes herself. Trust yourself, like yourself. You
have to be happy for yourself. Enjoy discovering your inner beauty and liking
yourself.
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